Don't be nice

Nice is boring. Nice is fake. Nice was an adaptation designed to win you love.

It doesn't work. Be real instead.

Nice is a mask which covers up your anger, irritation, frustration, disappointment (beautiful energies you learned to smother when you were young).

Nice will suffocate you and everyone else around you.

Nice keeps others from ever really knowing you.

Take the risk of not being nice!

Take the risk of showing yourself. Be prepared for others to dislike you. To think you're selfish, cold, mean, or even worse: "Unspiritual".

Say what you mean! Say yes when you mean yes. Say no when you mean no.

Make room in yourself for the light and the darkness, the weird and the strange

the erotic and the taboo and the unique and the inconvenient.

Repress nothing and deny nothing and let none of it control you either. Radical self-love is the deepest kind of joy there is; the permission to be wild, free, alive. And to know there is nothing wrong with you, ever.

Take the risk of looking after yourself!

Be prepared to feel alive again. To feel your heart pounding. To sweat. To shake. To wonder if you have the right...

To finally feel your guilt and shame instead of running away from them.

Be prepared for your 'nice' world to crumble.

Be prepared to lose your carefully crafted image.

Be prepared to feel the rush of newness!

- Jeff Foster